Voice of Common Pakistani !!!

Scooty…….
Yeah same Scooty that I thought could be a road to lead our women to empowerment. A means of transportation that would provide security against harassment of public transport, harassment of reaching home late after office hours and a means of family transport for many single middle class women who are bread winner for their families.
I put my thoughts in my previous post, discussed it with friends who belong to corporate sector, asked them their opinion and insight about the possibilities.
To my horror and surprise, an idea which was for middle class working women (for a start of trend in Lahore and Karachi alone) was rejected by women themselves, who are working independent, well educated, apparently confident, moderate and with updated with latest trends (in dressing atleast) desirous to help women, spokes person of women rights and above all women who have studied in best of institutes, travelled abroad and are no way conservative for themselves. Strange isn’t it? Yes my friends our women have dual standards. I do not want to discuss women and their approach here. Read more »

We participate in number of talks and sessions, where empowerment of women is discussed. We give our idea and opinions, we strongly support the idea and it becomes a heated emotional discussion.

That’s all………………….. Yes truly that’s about it. We have made most of the issues, a drawing room discussion. Issues and topics are given a lip service and nothing solid, concrete and particle is ever done.

Empower women, is one of the topics in constant discussion. Recently I had a chance to participate in a training “Gender Sensitization” facilitated by Mr. and Mrs. Imran Rizvi of RIZ Consultancy at Royal Palm, Lahore.

The event was a one day talk session and it really jolted me, when I came to know that Pakistan stands 56 out of 58 countries, where women participation in the main helm of affairs is missing. Just think of it 56th. I know our numbers would be bad as that’s how we have always been somehow lately. But at 56 out of 58 was an eye opener to me. The training went smooth and everyone participated according to his/ her approach, thoughts and opinion. But I got stuck………………..

Yeah as usual, me and my weird thoughts. Why we are at 56? How can we improve in this number game? What all could be done to change our future and improve women participation in all walks of life.

I had chances to travel abroad and look at the culture, traditions, religions, custom and norms with a “non-traditional vision”. I began a memory search of various nearby countries that excelled in past 15 years. The list comprised of India, Bangladesh, Sri Lanka, Malaysia, Indonesia and North Korea. I sat on internet and I Google (d) few pages and the answer was right there in front of my eyes, exactly as I had thought.

All these countries progressed when, women empowerment began by providing women transport. All these countries had poor public transport system. Instead of spending Billions of dollars to improve public transport, they promoted individual women transport. By introducing “SCOOTY” for women. A simple and affordable solution to 90% of the female population. Self start automatic gear box solution for the ease of women. Read more »

I love my Mother’S.

Sounds strange as everyone has one mother then why did I showed my LOVE to my Mothers?
For Men’s Alone !!!
Word Mother holds immense power to give and give and continue giving the unconditional love. They hold the power to lift you up when you are down. They behold the strength to make you strong, when you are weak and they have the charms to heal you, once you are worn out from your daily life’s sunburns.

A mother is the one who gives you birth and the second mother is the one who your mother hands you over too (Your Wife who serves you and protects you in the same way). So Mothers around you may be 1, 2 or more. Read more »

This is a true story. Once there was a woman who had three sons & one daughter. She raised her kids with good moral values. The kids grew up & one of her son” Ehsan” graduated & moved to UK. He did his Masters & got a good job over there . Like every other mother she wanted him  to get  married as he was young, intelligent, well educated & was enjoying a good job. His mom was in pakistan & she knew many beautiful girls , all she waited was for her son’s arrival.

Ehsan was not only successful but was a good human being. He would help everyone & always would come up with a  solution for everything. Due to this quality he was popular among his friends. His friends often called him ” solution provider”. Even if I had any problem , I would email him & he always replied. I know him since my University days as I would always stuck in a computer problem & would email him instantly & he was always there to help me out, not only me but he was willing to help everyone.

When he went to  Karachi, his mom convinced him in agreeing to a girl of her choice. He saw the girl only once as  he was  an obedient boy ,he  agreed . Later he was engaged to that  girl Deeba. During their engagement period, they were in contact with each other on MSN & facebook as Ehsan was in London. Ehsan soon found out that the girl was not mentally compatible to him but still he carried with the relationship until Deeba really made him go crazy one day, so Ehsan had to break their engagement, though his mom was deeply hurt because she was the girl she had selected.

After the mourning period was over, Ehsan came up with a decision. He knew a girl names “saba ” who was a widow & had 2 kids. She had been married at the age of 19 & was widowed @ 28. She was in Scotland & Ehsan had morally supported her lots of times. He decided to marry her. It was not due to mercy but because he thought that she was mentally compatible to him & he wanted to make a difference. In the beginning it was difficult for him to convince his family especially his mother but his mother soon gave up & was happy with  his decision. His friends told  him that he was an eligible bachelor & he would get any girl he wanted then why was he opting for a widow. He replied “just to make a difference”. Just to initiate something others can follow. He surprised everyone by his decision but Thankx to Allah he convinced everyone including his family. He’ll be getting married this year Inshallah! I hope the minds of young boys change & they also decide about their future with open minds

Q: What is the ruling on a woman working as a broadcaster in radio and television?.

A: Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly: Islam brought many guidelines to protect society from fitan (tribulation and temptation) and moral decline. Undoubtedly women’s going out of their homes and mixing with men and speaking softly to them whilst wearing their finest adornments are all among the greatest causes of fitan. Concerning this the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I have not left behind me any fitnah more harmful to men than women.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5096). And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Beware of this world and beware of women, for the first fitnah (trial) among the Children of Israel had to do with women.” Narrated byMuslim (2742).

If we examine reality we will become even more certain of the truth of what the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, who did not speak on the basis of whims and desires but was given Revelation. Nations and societies – Islamic and non-Islamic – whose women went out of the home and mixed with men gained nothing from that but evil, moral decline and a lot of illegitimate children. Read more »

“My own feeling is that we’ve pushed women too far,” says Dr. T. Berry Brazelton, the 80 year old Harvard University doctor who is frequently called “America’s Pediatrician,” in a recent interview in the Los Angles Times. “We’ve split them in two, and we have not given them back anything to support themselves on either end.” He has witnessed what forcing the women into the workforce and the breakdown of the family have done to the American children. “I just think our country is in deep, deep trouble,” he agonizes. Read more »

Islam does not appreciate joint family system. It is a tradition that we have inherited from Hindus, male & female living & eating together. Islam does not allow this but in pakistan when a girl  gets married,she  is forced to live in the joint family system. But if you want Islamic point of view then there is no such concept.

As Islam gives hijab a priority it cannot assemble the in-laws in the same house because  when you live in the same house there’s bound to be loose talks between male and female members of the family and Islam doesn’t like that. She has no privacy. She cannot observe Hijab . If she tries to seclude herself in her room ,she is considered to be arrogant.

No voices have been raised against this important issue. It is a woman’s right to live separately. She has the right to make decisions equally with her husband  & to raise their children accordingly but in Pakistan this right has been taken away from the girl. When the new bride enters the house she is taken for granted. She is not allowed to make decisions nor is given her rights. Read more »

I am a mother of two daughters, aged 4 & 2 Alhamdullilah . Me & my hubby are proud of  it , infact my hubby often tells me that he’ll consider himself as the luckiest man on earth if he is blessed by  4 daughters but the people around us keeps on pestering us with queries like when will we be blessed by  a baby boy ? In Pakistan if a woman is blessed with daughters , the society considers it bad & if the woman gives birth to  a son  then she holds a special position in the  society. I often wonder why is that so? When I am nice to old ladies or my maid , they often pray that I am blessed by a baby boy. To this I always reply to them , do u think I am not happy with my daughters , I am more than happy , Mashallah!

When will their minds change?? I start boiling with anger when I hear them say these type of prayers, if only I can change their minds.

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Reminds me of a movie starring Mel Gibson.

The idea of women rights was floated by west to unstable the structure of society in Islamic block. I feel sorry when we become victim to a drama staged by west, without going into the details.

Our religion provides the best solution. But we have this attitude of buying the idea from west in haste. The creator knows best and he has already defined the standings of male and female clearly.

If we still are confused it’s our weakness. In our society our women want relaxation of ‘ladies first’ but with that they hand pick few issues to raise the equality issue. Read more »